Saturday, June 22, 2013
A Manual to a Mans Heart!!
First off, I want to share with you that my husband is the one that wrote “The Manual to a Woman's Heart”. The reason we did it like this is because we wanted to put it in a way that it’s easier to understand for our readers. Now, I will tell you what I've learned over the years. So here it goes “The Manual to a Man's Heart”.
1. Men have a special ability that women lack, they can think of absolutely NOTHING!! So don't be upset when you ask your partner what he is thinking about and he answers in a confused and spaced out manner, "nothing".
2. Men have a very simple mind, and I do not mean it in a bad way. It's just that women dance around the subject, while men just see everything in black and white.
3. When something upsets you, be direct with your man. It will save time and the problem will be resolved a lot faster and easier.
4. Men HATE it when women bring stuff up from the past. So, if you have already dealt with a problem in the past, LEAVE IT IN THE PAST!!! Especially if it is not related to the current situation and you just want to make your point of how right you think you are. I am a woman, and I understand how much we like to be right, but trust me, what is in the past should stay in the past.
5. Talking about the past. “You should've” and “You could've” are always a bad way to start a sentence. Unless you have a unique time machine, there is absolutely nothing you can do to change the past. So in this case, it's better to move on and find solutions rather than to play the "blame game."
6. Man have a brain divided into boxes, and no box can mix with any other box at any time. Women however are a big tangled mess of wires; they all connect any subject to any other subject. This is especially true when we are having a conversation with our man.
For example men have a car box, a financial box, a fun box, a school box, a work box, etc. for every subject there is. They even have a NOTHING box, where they can quite literally think about nothing. Women can find a relation between all of those subjects and expect men to find those relations also. Which cannot happen, so if you want to have a successful conversation try to stay on one subject and let him know when you change it? (For example "I absolutely love the car, I think it's great!! Do you think it will work into our budget?") In our female brain its hard not to see the relation, but to man you are mixing completely different boxes and because of that they will start to shut down.
7. The next subject is video games, sometimes women find it kind of childish for our grown up partner to be playing video games. As I said above, men have a NOTHING box and when they play something as irrelevant as a video game, we women tend to get upset. However put a pause on the anger and backpedal for a second, and think about this: Men don't have to worry about real life for a moment while they play a video game. For most men, video games are relaxing. No matter how loud, extreme, or bloody it might be it is still helps them relax. If you are bothered for the amount of time he plays, TALK TO HIM DIRECTLY.
8. Despite the popular belief of most women, men are not mind readers. So if something is bothering you, talk to him directly. He will never guess what is going on, no matter how well he knows you.
9. Guy Time: Sometimes guys like to do things by themselves. It might be watching sports, playing video games, making scale model cars, or a whole plethora of other things. Just like us women like to take a hot bath, read a book, or sometimes play video games ourselves. Having space in a relationship and giving each other that space will stop us from suffocating each other. It doesn't have to be for long periods of time, just enough to appreciate the time and things we actually do together.
10. Guys will do anything for sex; please do not take advantage of their willingness. : )
11. When it comes to sex, sometimes guys can’t figure out what turns us on. So they just want to go and jackhammer your world (it is uncomfortable trust me). Help him by guiding him through your body and show him what you want and how you like it. He will find it super hot because you are getting turned on and are letting him be a part of and have access to that wonderful and delicious fruit which is your body. Plus of course, he will be ready to explode once you are ready, and so will you!
12. Make your man feel as desirable and sexy as he is.
13. Men LOVE their junk (their penis) so show it some love, and DO NOT EVER CRITICIZE IT!!!
14. Always look clean and good for him, I am not saying you have to go to the hairdresser and salon and stuff, just sexy, simple, and fun!
15. Sometimes we marry our best friend, sometimes we marry a guy we just fell in love with but had several differences with. I have seen both cases. I married my best friend and I fell in love with him. We like the same shows, activities, food, etc. so it’s pretty much a walk in the park. I have talked with several couples that were deeply in love when they got married but don't have much in common. So here is the key to success: Focus on things you do have in common and give each other some space to enjoy the things you like to do individually. It will also be quite a turn on for him if once in a while you surprise him by joining him in enjoying a new activity. Laughter produces the most endorphins. Always remember that eventually everyone’s looks will go away and the start-up passion will fade, but the true love, respect, and friendship between each other along with a genuine interest in each other is what will make a marriage a strong foundation for years to come.
16. Do NOT suffocate your man. If he had certain things you want him to change, remember that he is dealing with the mountain of defects that is you. So be gentle, loving, direct, and don't try to change him all at once. Because even though he will change, his true self will still be there in a little cage, and eventually will come out.
17. Men marry a woman or get with a woman to have a partner, not a mom. So be fun, sweet, and don't be too bossy.
18. If your man likes rated R movies due to the blood seemingly splashing out of the screen such as in the "SAW" movies, don’t expect him to change overnight and want to watch "The Notebook.” If you do, you are kind of off your rocker. So maybe you can watch movies that you both like, and let him have a boys night to watch the ones you aren’t interested in. A plate with salsa and chips along with some cool beverages will make your house the "TO GO" place, plus he will be able to appreciate it and love you for what you do.
19. There is a HUGE misconception that sex is over after marriage. Prove it wrong. In my experience, sex is actually way better after marriage, due to the love and trust you and your man have for each other. Plus you will know every nook and cranny of your partners body and know what buttons to push and when.
20. Men have sexual fantasies and whether women like to admit to it or not, we do to. Let's be honest if you have good communication, you can both agree on what is ok and what is off limits. If you have ever been curious about something and want to try something new, DON'T BE AFRAID. For sex with your partner to be full of passion and love, it has to be non-judgmental. You will never be able to reach a higher level of satisfaction if you feel like you are always being judged in bed. All women have a jaguar hiding inside aching to come out and play, so show you partner the way to let that passion out, and I PROMISE you will see fireworks. REMEMBER COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
21. Try to improve communication. Go on a date in the park, just to talk about non-important things, and even if you escalate the conversation to important things just enjoy the time you are talking. Always remember to be direct, guys have a hard time trying to understand what is in our head. Just speak up and show him how handsome, sexy, and how much love you have for him. Remember despite his tough exterior he has a heart too, so be gentle. ALWAYS ENJOY THE TIME YOU HAVE WITH HIM. Nobody knows what might happen tomorrow.
22. You mark the tone in the conversation, and remember yelling is a red flag that things are getting out of control. Talk even if you are upset, never yelled. Men feel accused and attack when you yell at them. Keep the tone down. If your partner starts to yell, ask him as nice as you can under the circumstance to please talk to you instead of yelling at you.
23. Love and marriage can be all you expected to be, but it’s a job for two, so love him, and treat him with all the love and respect he treats you with.
1. Men have a special ability that women lack, they can think of absolutely NOTHING!! So don't be upset when you ask your partner what he is thinking about and he answers in a confused and spaced out manner, "nothing".
2. Men have a very simple mind, and I do not mean it in a bad way. It's just that women dance around the subject, while men just see everything in black and white.
3. When something upsets you, be direct with your man. It will save time and the problem will be resolved a lot faster and easier.
4. Men HATE it when women bring stuff up from the past. So, if you have already dealt with a problem in the past, LEAVE IT IN THE PAST!!! Especially if it is not related to the current situation and you just want to make your point of how right you think you are. I am a woman, and I understand how much we like to be right, but trust me, what is in the past should stay in the past.
5. Talking about the past. “You should've” and “You could've” are always a bad way to start a sentence. Unless you have a unique time machine, there is absolutely nothing you can do to change the past. So in this case, it's better to move on and find solutions rather than to play the "blame game."
6. Man have a brain divided into boxes, and no box can mix with any other box at any time. Women however are a big tangled mess of wires; they all connect any subject to any other subject. This is especially true when we are having a conversation with our man.
For example men have a car box, a financial box, a fun box, a school box, a work box, etc. for every subject there is. They even have a NOTHING box, where they can quite literally think about nothing. Women can find a relation between all of those subjects and expect men to find those relations also. Which cannot happen, so if you want to have a successful conversation try to stay on one subject and let him know when you change it? (For example "I absolutely love the car, I think it's great!! Do you think it will work into our budget?") In our female brain its hard not to see the relation, but to man you are mixing completely different boxes and because of that they will start to shut down.
7. The next subject is video games, sometimes women find it kind of childish for our grown up partner to be playing video games. As I said above, men have a NOTHING box and when they play something as irrelevant as a video game, we women tend to get upset. However put a pause on the anger and backpedal for a second, and think about this: Men don't have to worry about real life for a moment while they play a video game. For most men, video games are relaxing. No matter how loud, extreme, or bloody it might be it is still helps them relax. If you are bothered for the amount of time he plays, TALK TO HIM DIRECTLY.
8. Despite the popular belief of most women, men are not mind readers. So if something is bothering you, talk to him directly. He will never guess what is going on, no matter how well he knows you.
9. Guy Time: Sometimes guys like to do things by themselves. It might be watching sports, playing video games, making scale model cars, or a whole plethora of other things. Just like us women like to take a hot bath, read a book, or sometimes play video games ourselves. Having space in a relationship and giving each other that space will stop us from suffocating each other. It doesn't have to be for long periods of time, just enough to appreciate the time and things we actually do together.
10. Guys will do anything for sex; please do not take advantage of their willingness. : )
11. When it comes to sex, sometimes guys can’t figure out what turns us on. So they just want to go and jackhammer your world (it is uncomfortable trust me). Help him by guiding him through your body and show him what you want and how you like it. He will find it super hot because you are getting turned on and are letting him be a part of and have access to that wonderful and delicious fruit which is your body. Plus of course, he will be ready to explode once you are ready, and so will you!
12. Make your man feel as desirable and sexy as he is.
13. Men LOVE their junk (their penis) so show it some love, and DO NOT EVER CRITICIZE IT!!!
14. Always look clean and good for him, I am not saying you have to go to the hairdresser and salon and stuff, just sexy, simple, and fun!
15. Sometimes we marry our best friend, sometimes we marry a guy we just fell in love with but had several differences with. I have seen both cases. I married my best friend and I fell in love with him. We like the same shows, activities, food, etc. so it’s pretty much a walk in the park. I have talked with several couples that were deeply in love when they got married but don't have much in common. So here is the key to success: Focus on things you do have in common and give each other some space to enjoy the things you like to do individually. It will also be quite a turn on for him if once in a while you surprise him by joining him in enjoying a new activity. Laughter produces the most endorphins. Always remember that eventually everyone’s looks will go away and the start-up passion will fade, but the true love, respect, and friendship between each other along with a genuine interest in each other is what will make a marriage a strong foundation for years to come.
16. Do NOT suffocate your man. If he had certain things you want him to change, remember that he is dealing with the mountain of defects that is you. So be gentle, loving, direct, and don't try to change him all at once. Because even though he will change, his true self will still be there in a little cage, and eventually will come out.
17. Men marry a woman or get with a woman to have a partner, not a mom. So be fun, sweet, and don't be too bossy.
18. If your man likes rated R movies due to the blood seemingly splashing out of the screen such as in the "SAW" movies, don’t expect him to change overnight and want to watch "The Notebook.” If you do, you are kind of off your rocker. So maybe you can watch movies that you both like, and let him have a boys night to watch the ones you aren’t interested in. A plate with salsa and chips along with some cool beverages will make your house the "TO GO" place, plus he will be able to appreciate it and love you for what you do.
19. There is a HUGE misconception that sex is over after marriage. Prove it wrong. In my experience, sex is actually way better after marriage, due to the love and trust you and your man have for each other. Plus you will know every nook and cranny of your partners body and know what buttons to push and when.
20. Men have sexual fantasies and whether women like to admit to it or not, we do to. Let's be honest if you have good communication, you can both agree on what is ok and what is off limits. If you have ever been curious about something and want to try something new, DON'T BE AFRAID. For sex with your partner to be full of passion and love, it has to be non-judgmental. You will never be able to reach a higher level of satisfaction if you feel like you are always being judged in bed. All women have a jaguar hiding inside aching to come out and play, so show you partner the way to let that passion out, and I PROMISE you will see fireworks. REMEMBER COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
21. Try to improve communication. Go on a date in the park, just to talk about non-important things, and even if you escalate the conversation to important things just enjoy the time you are talking. Always remember to be direct, guys have a hard time trying to understand what is in our head. Just speak up and show him how handsome, sexy, and how much love you have for him. Remember despite his tough exterior he has a heart too, so be gentle. ALWAYS ENJOY THE TIME YOU HAVE WITH HIM. Nobody knows what might happen tomorrow.
22. You mark the tone in the conversation, and remember yelling is a red flag that things are getting out of control. Talk even if you are upset, never yelled. Men feel accused and attack when you yell at them. Keep the tone down. If your partner starts to yell, ask him as nice as you can under the circumstance to please talk to you instead of yelling at you.
23. Love and marriage can be all you expected to be, but it’s a job for two, so love him, and treat him with all the love and respect he treats you with.
The Manual to a Womans Heart!!!
1. Most women hate it when guys say perverted things.
2. Women like to be told that they're beautiful, rather than hot, pretty, cute, or sexy. It just gives more meaning.
3. Women love to feel special, even though they might not show it.
4. Most women talk about EVERYTHING with their girlfriends. So that means, you're possibly 90% of their conversation. And believe me, trash talking takes up most of it, unless you're a Greek god, which you're not.
2. Women like to be told that they're beautiful, rather than hot, pretty, cute, or sexy. It just gives more meaning.
3. Women love to feel special, even though they might not show it.
4. Most women talk about EVERYTHING with their girlfriends. So that means, you're possibly 90% of their conversation. And believe me, trash talking takes up most of it, unless you're a Greek god, which you're not.
5. When women wants to talk she wants you to shut up and listen.
6. When a woman is upset and says, “don’t talk to me right now” she really wants you to come hold her and comfort her.
7. Tell the woman you care about she is pretty and that you love her every chance you get.
8. NEVER criticize a woman’s food, no matter how nasty. (Just eat it and shut up)
9. Remember sense of humor, WOMEN LOVE GUYS WHO CAN MAKE THEM LAUGH.
10. Women hate guys with bad hygiene. So put on that deodorant and clip those nails!
11. Women love guys who know how to dance.
12. Women love it when a guy pulls them close by the waist.
13. Women go crazy when a guy smells good.
14. Women hate cocky guys.
15. Usually, when a woman is sarcastically mean to you, it means they're attracted to you, but are afraid that they'll be showing too much.
16. A kiss on the hand with the right timing can be a REAL TURN-ON.
9. Remember sense of humor, WOMEN LOVE GUYS WHO CAN MAKE THEM LAUGH.
10. Women hate guys with bad hygiene. So put on that deodorant and clip those nails!
11. Women love guys who know how to dance.
12. Women love it when a guy pulls them close by the waist.
13. Women go crazy when a guy smells good.
14. Women hate cocky guys.
15. Usually, when a woman is sarcastically mean to you, it means they're attracted to you, but are afraid that they'll be showing too much.
16. A kiss on the hand with the right timing can be a REAL TURN-ON.
17. When a guy says something really sentimental, women will remember it forever.
18. The smallest gestures, the smallest stares, and the smallest statements could make a woman's year. No joke.
19. Women get embarrassed easily, even if guys don't know what the hell just happened.
20. When a woman is upset and wants you to listen, she wants you to listen. Don't give her advice unless she asks for it.
21. When a woman is crying, she feels a lot safer if you pull her close and tell her that everything is going to be alright.
22. Women love it when guys say their name.
23. Women don't like short tempered guys.
24. Sometimes women just wish that guys would notice when they get a new haircut or if they're wearing eyeliner.
25. Women find it a lot more romantic if you just fall asleep with them holding them with your arms rather than having a night of hot kinky sex.
26. Women will never say I love you unless you say it first. But that doesn't mean she doesn't want to scream it from the top of her lungs.
27. Women love confidence.
28. There comes a time when women have needs too. Enough said.
29. A woman will cry over you a lot more than you think.
30. A woman’s emotional wounds can last awhile. And when I say awhile, I mean forever.
31. Women hate guys who smell bad.
32. When a woman cooks for you, you know you mean a lot to her.
33. Eyeliner is a girl's essential product. Don't ever try to take it away from her.
34. Women hate it, absolutely HATE IT when guys don't keep their promises. It throws them over the top.
35. A phone call, a text message, or a single Hershey's kiss will mean A LOT MORE than a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates on her birthday if you can’t afford it.
36. Every woman thinks she's pretty in one way or another. They just won't admit it.
37. Women are VERY SELF-CONSCIOUS when it comes to their looks. No makeup is a very sensitive topic
18. The smallest gestures, the smallest stares, and the smallest statements could make a woman's year. No joke.
19. Women get embarrassed easily, even if guys don't know what the hell just happened.
20. When a woman is upset and wants you to listen, she wants you to listen. Don't give her advice unless she asks for it.
21. When a woman is crying, she feels a lot safer if you pull her close and tell her that everything is going to be alright.
22. Women love it when guys say their name.
23. Women don't like short tempered guys.
24. Sometimes women just wish that guys would notice when they get a new haircut or if they're wearing eyeliner.
25. Women find it a lot more romantic if you just fall asleep with them holding them with your arms rather than having a night of hot kinky sex.
26. Women will never say I love you unless you say it first. But that doesn't mean she doesn't want to scream it from the top of her lungs.
27. Women love confidence.
28. There comes a time when women have needs too. Enough said.
29. A woman will cry over you a lot more than you think.
30. A woman’s emotional wounds can last awhile. And when I say awhile, I mean forever.
31. Women hate guys who smell bad.
32. When a woman cooks for you, you know you mean a lot to her.
33. Eyeliner is a girl's essential product. Don't ever try to take it away from her.
34. Women hate it, absolutely HATE IT when guys don't keep their promises. It throws them over the top.
35. A phone call, a text message, or a single Hershey's kiss will mean A LOT MORE than a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates on her birthday if you can’t afford it.
36. Every woman thinks she's pretty in one way or another. They just won't admit it.
37. Women are VERY SELF-CONSCIOUS when it comes to their looks. No makeup is a very sensitive topic
38. NEVER check out another woman if your in a committed relationship ESPESCIALLY in front of her.
39. Remember for a woman, sex is ALWAYS more than just sex.
40. Women need to be “warmed up” before sex. (no just plow and go for your own pleasure.[SEE PICTURE])
41. EVERY woman wants to be treated like a goddess. Make her feel as beautiful, sensual, and as important as the goddess that she really is.
42. Wham bam thank you mam (aka the typical quickie) is nice every now and then, but the key to a good relationship is to focus on her rather than your raging second head.
43. "A woman is like a diesel engine, it might take a while to warm up, but once she's warm....... she can go for a long LONG time." Jeff Foxworthy
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